Teach acceptance to your child

 Parents were there then also and parents are there now also. Parents are going to exist till this world exists. Means to say we all had our parents too who nurtured us. But the way they chose to grow us was quite different. Those days when we were kids its not that old. May be just 20 or 30 years back. But if we compare the parenting then and now , there is a lot and lot difference.

These days parents have become over protective. In the race of giving everything to the child they have started ignoring the child’s mistake. In this competitive world if the child is not performing well then parents have started a pass on game. Sometimes they will pass the blame on teachers, sometimes on their grandparents, and sometimes on themselves too.

But Is this the right way to raise a child? What is your opinion. In my opinion it’s a very wrong. Love, affection, gratitude is needed but modern parents have to prepare their child to deal with failures too. You should learn them acceptance.

Before you teach them acceptance you being a parent have to accept the fact that each child is born with different capabilities. They have different interest and their learning capacity also differs. So if you are wondering how to deal with your children. What are key points of good parenting. Then let  me tell you there is no rulebook, it is you who has the utmost  knowledge. These pointers may guide you accordingly.

·    Never Compare children :-  No child Is same , even two children of the same mother are also very much different. When you compare you actually ignores the unique talent which your kid is having and you lead your child on the path of destruction

·    Stop being anxious  :- Sometimes in anxiety and running behind competition you actually start placing yourself in place of your child. You start taking your child’s marks card as your reputation. Pls donot do that, it may happen that you were an extraordinary student or a brilliant employee but your child is not the one. There is no big deal. Stop forcing your child to be a perfect jack.

·    Accept Failures : One day if your child has come with a marksheet with all the red marks , this doesnot mean his/her teacher hates him/ her.  It means child has not completed the sheet.

·    Never make excuse on behalf of child:- If for a single day just to save your child from getting scolded, you will make excuse or takes the blame on yourself, your child will start taking things very casually.

·    Never scold your child in public :- Don’t scold children in public. They take it as an insult and gradually they stop sharing things with you. Talk to them in person or make them understand that where they gone wrong and always give them options what could be done

 

Just like all children are different in their behaviour, parenting also differs parent to parent. These are few guidelines which may help you in dealing with your child. Your method for your child is always the best.


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