Parents were there then also and parents are there now also. Parents are going to exist till this world exists. Means to say we all had our parents too who nurtured us. But the way they chose to grow us was quite different. Those days when we were kids its not that old. May be just 20 or 30 years back. But if we compare the parenting then and now , there is a lot and lot difference.
These days
parents have become over protective. In the race of giving everything to the
child they have started ignoring the child’s mistake. In this competitive world
if the child is not performing well then parents have started a pass on game. Sometimes
they will pass the blame on teachers, sometimes on their grandparents, and
sometimes on themselves too.
But Is this
the right way to raise a child? What is your opinion. In my opinion it’s a very
wrong. Love, affection, gratitude is needed but modern parents have to prepare
their child to deal with failures too. You should learn them acceptance.
Before you teach
them acceptance you being a parent have to accept the fact that each child is
born with different capabilities. They have different interest and their
learning capacity also differs. So if you are wondering how to deal with your
children. What are key points of good parenting. Then let me tell you there is no rulebook, it is you
who has the utmost knowledge. These
pointers may guide you accordingly.
· Never Compare children :- No child Is same , even two children of the
same mother are also very much different. When you compare you actually ignores
the unique talent which your kid is having and you lead your child on the path
of destruction
· Stop being anxious :- Sometimes in anxiety and running behind
competition you actually start placing yourself in place of your child. You start
taking your child’s marks card as your reputation. Pls donot do that, it may
happen that you were an extraordinary student or a brilliant employee but your
child is not the one. There is no big deal. Stop forcing your child to be a
perfect jack.
· Accept Failures : One day if your child
has come with a marksheet with all the red marks , this doesnot mean his/her
teacher hates him/ her. It means child
has not completed the sheet.
· Never make excuse on behalf of child:-
If for a single day just to save your child from getting scolded, you will make
excuse or takes the blame on yourself, your child will start taking things very
casually.
· Never scold your child in public :- Don’t
scold children in public. They take it as an insult and gradually they stop
sharing things with you. Talk to them in person or make them understand that
where they gone wrong and always give them options what could be done
Just like all children are different in their behaviour, parenting also differs
parent to parent. These are few guidelines which may help you in dealing with your
child. Your method for your child is always the best.
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