Don't Create a 'No' world for your children.

 Have you ever wondered, whenever your child asks you for any new thing most of the time you answer them with a 'No' or something related to it. If you will count the number of times you said no in a day and compare it with numbers of yes. 'No' is going to be the winner of this race.

I believe we parents are so used to saying 'no' to our own selves and our own joys that we unknowingly spill that over to our babies. Obviously, we had childhood with many restrictions and a lot of 'no's, hence, it's the only path we are aware of. But today is a new day, and we don't have to repeat falling patterns that did little for us as children.

Most adults forget that children have a bonafide wish to experience life, to feel excitement, wonder, anxiety and a rush. The moments in the life, acts, incidents and events create the experience in life that we hold on to. Sometimes they can be scary prank and sometimes they can be creative inventions. Both fuel each other in a child's developing mind. In that exhilaration and childlike focus of chasing experiences, children will do many things considered inappropriate by adults. Especially busy adults.

Think about the last time a colleague uttered a hasty no without even looking into your eyes. The word 'no' hurts our core. The word 'no' screams rejection while the word 'yes' is acceptance. Hence always keep your sentence productive. Before saying 'no' ask a question to yourself . Is it rude? Is it unsafe? If not, let go and allow the child freedom and let them experience the world in their way.

The Panchatantra advised that we say only 'yes ' to a child till he or she is seven. From birth till the tender age of 7, the brain is building neutral pathways that help the child form beliefs, foundations for relationships and character for life. The child's primary need is to explore, investigate and innocently research, which is immediately thwarted with sharp and callous 'no's.

A child's potentiality is immediately questioned with the constant no. Their self - belief is nudged. their internal dialogues stops, and their creativity declines with every no you say. Interestingly, the word no has the same effect on the speaker. so when we utter no next time remember the effect it is having on the brain and on our beliefs.